I would like to thank those who have followed the blog and supported Bea and I the past couple of years. It really provided me with a lot of fuel to keep me going when times were tough.
We are now using first names and not abbreviating any longer in the blog. This is because all the legal matters have come to a close up in Canada.
We are also very determined to keep active on the blog and post every week, Wednesday or Thursday. I am in the midst of preproduction of the documentary involving PAS, so I will be updating everyone through the blog regarding the film.
Thank You Denis
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Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
The Marital Home
After a couple of weeks of waiting for the trustee's accounting of the marital home to come in the mail, I again called the trustee's office to find out where the document was. This time I was told it was on the way.
Sure enough in about two more weeks it should up. I opened the letter in anxious anticipation as I had hopes that my share of the home would be somewhere around $125,000.00 as houses in the area were selling for $250k to $260k. To my surprise my share of the marital home was only $90k, a far cry from what I was hoping for and thought was fair.
To my further surprise the whole $90k was used up! $52,000 went to the Trustee and his lawyer and the other $38,000.00 went to the creditors. The latter I was fine with, the former was a complete shock! $16k went directly to the trustee and the rest some $36k went to his lawyer. Sharon had opposed my bankruptcy even though she would later deny that. The trustee had to retain a lawyer because Sharon would not part with the house. The trustee had to get a court order to force Sharon to account for the house when my Daughter Rochelle turned 18.
With this current information I now had no surplus to assist me with paying the child support arrears off , and with no extra funds I would not be able to hire a family lawyer to have the court order changed. This meant the spousal and child support would keep accruing until the end of time.
Bea and I had to make some decisions...
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Sure enough in about two more weeks it should up. I opened the letter in anxious anticipation as I had hopes that my share of the home would be somewhere around $125,000.00 as houses in the area were selling for $250k to $260k. To my surprise my share of the marital home was only $90k, a far cry from what I was hoping for and thought was fair.
To my further surprise the whole $90k was used up! $52,000 went to the Trustee and his lawyer and the other $38,000.00 went to the creditors. The latter I was fine with, the former was a complete shock! $16k went directly to the trustee and the rest some $36k went to his lawyer. Sharon had opposed my bankruptcy even though she would later deny that. The trustee had to retain a lawyer because Sharon would not part with the house. The trustee had to get a court order to force Sharon to account for the house when my Daughter Rochelle turned 18.
With this current information I now had no surplus to assist me with paying the child support arrears off , and with no extra funds I would not be able to hire a family lawyer to have the court order changed. This meant the spousal and child support would keep accruing until the end of time.
Bea and I had to make some decisions...
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Friday, February 15, 2013
The Start of the Final Battle
In mid 2010 I had been thinking of Andrew and Rochelle a lot of the time as they had both had birthdays that spring. Andrew turned 20 and Rochelle turned 18, both days I would have dearly loved to be apart of if given the choice.
I knew in my heart that I would have to face an ugliness that I had been saving my strength for in the past ten years. That is stoke the fire between Sharon and I in the court system in Canada.
Our house was supposed to be accounted for after approximately 13 years now that our youngest Rochelle was 18years old. I decided to call the trustee that had handled my bankruptcy back in Canada in late 1999 regarding the marital home. He had control over my half of the house, which was pretty much paid off at the time of our seperation. Previous calls to the trustee had proved to be fruitless, this time I had actually talked with the Trustee and he informed me that I would soon be sent a copy of the accounting of my share of the house. I was some what in shock that anything was happening, as past history had shown me that little if anything was ever accomplished that involved the divorce. My thoughts were that what ever was left over from the accounting of the house I would use to pay down my child suppport arrears.
My feelings were mixed. I new that this was progress but I also new that things were about to heat up. Having dealt with Sharon in the past I felt like she would pull out all the stops and go to any length to get what she could from me.
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I knew in my heart that I would have to face an ugliness that I had been saving my strength for in the past ten years. That is stoke the fire between Sharon and I in the court system in Canada.
Our house was supposed to be accounted for after approximately 13 years now that our youngest Rochelle was 18years old. I decided to call the trustee that had handled my bankruptcy back in Canada in late 1999 regarding the marital home. He had control over my half of the house, which was pretty much paid off at the time of our seperation. Previous calls to the trustee had proved to be fruitless, this time I had actually talked with the Trustee and he informed me that I would soon be sent a copy of the accounting of my share of the house. I was some what in shock that anything was happening, as past history had shown me that little if anything was ever accomplished that involved the divorce. My thoughts were that what ever was left over from the accounting of the house I would use to pay down my child suppport arrears.
My feelings were mixed. I new that this was progress but I also new that things were about to heat up. Having dealt with Sharon in the past I felt like she would pull out all the stops and go to any length to get what she could from me.
Remember D's posts are in GREEN. PLEASE check out our resource links in the TOP RIGHT hand corner. These resources will include both Parent Alienation/Syndrome information as well as support for divorced families. Become a follower as this will help us grow our audience.
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