On February 2nd, 2011 a fellow by the name of Jim rang our doorbell at 0745. He was asking for D, stated he was with the courts and was rather pleasant. I told him D was not here. Jim left his number with me.
None of this was a surprise. So many emotions and thoughts ran through my head in a few seconds. I flood of tears welled up in my eyes. I wrote in my journal. Here are the words as they were written:
"I have been sending love and good thoughts to Sharon, A and R for quite some time. I have no anger or ill will for her. I am disgusted and so amazed at how our so called "justice" system continues to be what it is. That is condoning and being a major perpetrator of legalized emotional and psychological abuse of children. They are allowed to continue to engage in these crimes against children. The lawyers, the psychologists and the judges. Now I realize this is a general statement but I am so saddened by the amount of people/children who have gone through this system. It starts with the parents but when that is a volatile situation for one reason or another, who becomes the adult who will act in the best interest of the children...in loco parentis. When we get down to it...the core...do any of these family court professionals truly care about the kids or the parents? It's another court case in family court. Next!
I'm not sure D will make it to March to go to Canada. The heat is very strong/hot at this time and getting worse."
The tests of our strength had begun.
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Monday, May 2, 2011
Making It Happen
D and I spent January through March 2011 getting prepared. We had no clue how to put a documentary together and did not have the slightest idea how we would get a clue. It did not matter. We just knew we wanted to and felt we had to. I have always welcomed a challenge. It takes mental effort to push fear out of your path. Together D and I are so strong. We pull each other up when the other needs a hand. It is amazing! He is an amazing human being. We have an incredible love for one another.
Both of us believe so strongly that we must BE what we desire to attract into our lives. This adventure would be no different.
I was with a new employer since November 2010 and it was time to meet with my orientation co-ordinator to debrief. We met off site. We talked about work for over an hour and then for some reason I started telling her D's story. I vowed to always follow my intuition and here I was, doing exactly that. Those who know me, know that I do not typically talk about my personal life in any detail with co-workers. So much for that!
Julie and I had a connection. Turns out she could empathize with D's personal situation AND she was a film maker/director. I was so grateful!
PLEASE check out our resource links in the TOP RIGHT hand corner. These resources will include both Parent Alienation/Syndrome information as well as support for divorced families.
Both of us believe so strongly that we must BE what we desire to attract into our lives. This adventure would be no different.
I was with a new employer since November 2010 and it was time to meet with my orientation co-ordinator to debrief. We met off site. We talked about work for over an hour and then for some reason I started telling her D's story. I vowed to always follow my intuition and here I was, doing exactly that. Those who know me, know that I do not typically talk about my personal life in any detail with co-workers. So much for that!
Julie and I had a connection. Turns out she could empathize with D's personal situation AND she was a film maker/director. I was so grateful!
PLEASE check out our resource links in the TOP RIGHT hand corner. These resources will include both Parent Alienation/Syndrome information as well as support for divorced families.
A New Idea Is Born!
We had an idea of what lay ahead for us but we knew that we wouldn't feel it to the core until we were right in the middle of it. What would that look and feel like? It was not wise to waste any energy thinking of what might be. Our time and energy needed to be directed forward and on not losing sight of the objectives and the goal.
The objectives were to always stay positive, come from good intentions and to be true to ourselves.
The goal was substantial but attainable. A settlement that would be agreeable to D. Three simple requests. Yes I said simple, not easy. #1...Remove all spousal support dated back to 1999...#2...An end date on the child support and...#3...Have the hold on his passport lifted...We were actually excited at what this would mean. What could it mean for us, for his children, his family, other families, other children...ahhh....other children! I was thinking about effecting change globally. Why not?
If this movement could affect others in a positive, constructive, loving way, then why not? It was possible. Why keep it to one family? I said to D, "You should film this journey! Let people see the reality of it all." Much was discussed.
D had gained a new title...film maker! We would create a documentary.
PLEASE check out our resource links in the TOP RIGHT hand corner. These resources will include both Parent Alienation/Syndrome information as well as support for divorced families.
The objectives were to always stay positive, come from good intentions and to be true to ourselves.
The goal was substantial but attainable. A settlement that would be agreeable to D. Three simple requests. Yes I said simple, not easy. #1...Remove all spousal support dated back to 1999...#2...An end date on the child support and...#3...Have the hold on his passport lifted...We were actually excited at what this would mean. What could it mean for us, for his children, his family, other families, other children...ahhh....other children! I was thinking about effecting change globally. Why not?
If this movement could affect others in a positive, constructive, loving way, then why not? It was possible. Why keep it to one family? I said to D, "You should film this journey! Let people see the reality of it all." Much was discussed.
D had gained a new title...film maker! We would create a documentary.
PLEASE check out our resource links in the TOP RIGHT hand corner. These resources will include both Parent Alienation/Syndrome information as well as support for divorced families.
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