Cliche as it may sound, D had an "aha" moment in the fall of 2010. Both of us were diligent in our commitment to ourselves. We continued to feed our minds and our hearts with positive information, meditation and we surrounded ourselves with great people. Strength would be required in the very near future.
While we were having coffee with friends, something clicked within him and he shared how he felt. He realized that he had harbored anger deep within him for all of these years. This anger had not surfaced before. Thinking he had forgiven his ex-wife Sharon in order to be able to move on, he had not conceived holding on to this destructive emotion. This had held him back for 11 years.
D went on to say that he now knew that no matter what he would have done during his marriage, it would never have been enough. He had often wondered why Sharon would do this to him and her children. He had been a good husband, a good father, a good provider...so why?
That day, D answered his own question. Sharon would not allow herself love. She did not know how to. He would now be free. He could sense that the person he was to his core would now emerge in every respect. I was so happy for him.
For years he would say that he just didn't know what the problem was. He had dreams and goals but he never seemed to be able to give any of it his all. He was held down and he could not explain by what. He worked hard at everything he did but his potential was not being realized...until now.
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