A Victorious Day 15 Years Coming!

  Well hello to all...I am back and have to be consistent with the Blog as the documentary will be created and this provides some of the content.
  I am now going to use our names in full as this battle is finally over as of today. Denis is coming home. He is currently in the USA and he will be flying home to Phoenix tomorrow. He is in Grand Forks, ND. My father told me this morning, "We brought him to Canada last year and we will bring him back home now." He and his wife Solange drove him across the border into Canada last March and back into the US today.
  He has been away from his family, his friends, his home and his life for 16 mos almost to the exact date. He left for Canada on March 28th, 2011 and will be home July 26th, 2012.
  It feels surreal to me. His flight is booked and I pick him up at 1520 tomorrow. I envisioned him being on the couch in the family room once home with me by his side and the boys chatting with us. This was what I was picturing last evening. It will actually come to fruition!

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You Are An Awesome Man!

Baby I just want to tell you I am so proud of you. You are doing what 99.9% of people would never attempt to do. You have done it. You are nearing the end. You have taken it to the limit. You are almost there. I am so proud of you. I am honored to be a partner with you in life. I am grateful for you. You are an awesome human being and you fucking rock!!!! I love you sooooooo much! I cannot wait until you are home with us.

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More Delay

    Sharon hired another lawyer, his name is Sam Malamud. This would be the fourth Lawyer in a year. He appeared at the May 24, 2012 hearing in front of the Judge. The Lawyer was wanting to discuss security for costs that Sharon was awarded by Judge. The judge and I were under the impression that we were there for direction on drafting the Order. The costs were not discussed at that time. The Judge also set down a date of July 25, 2012 to discuss costs if we haven't already agreed on them. The judged instructed the lawyer how he wanted the Order drafted and the time frame. The Judge sent his instructions to both parties in a couple of days as he stated he would. Sharon's lawyer was to draft Order by the end of that same week and submit final Draft for signing.This of course did not happen. Sharon's Lawyer in that same time frame had time to draw up two affidavits and a Motion for security of costs. I wonder who is delaying and not following the instructions of the Honourable Justice William Johnston? The Motion was to be heard by the Master on Friday the 15th of June 2012... today. This was postpones to June 18, 2012 at 9:30 A.M.

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What Was The Judge Thinking!

    Hello Everyone, yes it has been a long time since either B or I have written anything on the blog. Many things have transpired since the last post and many things have stayed the same. I have continued going to Maintenance Enforcement Program hearings monthly to update the Crown and their Client MEP and my former wife of my Variation Order. On March 30, 2012 the Judge gave his decision orally, at that time Sharon and I were both self represented. The Judge told us we had to write up the order ourselves. Neither of us knew how to do this. Sharon tried putting her draft of the Order through to the Judge for signing. She also tried adding something that was never a part of the verbal decision from the Judge. Hers was rejected by Judge and sent back with instructions on what he wanted in the draft. I was not aware of this draft until the Judge sent it back to both of us with the rejection letter. 
    Sharon hired her third Lawyer who I had my brother Kael deal with regarding this Order drafting. This Lawyer seemed capable but after two weeks of working for Sharon she excused herself from dealing with Sharon by saying she was too busy!!! she actually had informed Kael that her client "Sharon" was being difficult.
    Kael had assisted me in drafting another Order but Sharon would not sign it. We sent it in and asked the Judge to sign it but he would not and so we had to set an appointment with him for May 24, 2012.  
   
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The Months Before The Hearing

   I had been working on my case steadily for months before the January 17th, 2012 hearing date. I'd stayed up late going over mine and Sharon's Affidavits dating back 15 yrs. This included working on the never ending Motions to Expunge material of mine that was deemed unfavorable by my ex-wife Sharon and her attourney (this simply meant that Sharon and her atty were trying to have many if not all of my recent statements permanently erased from the case records so that these points could not be discussed again in the future). More time and money spent.

  Writing an argument summary for the January hearing was especially hard.
  I did not know which type of hearing I was going to have until 2 days prior. 1) a Discovery type trial is where we would each ask the other side questions 2) an argument type scenario is where we each argue our case to the Judge without questioning each other.
  I was asked by my sister Krista on Sunday, January 15th what type of hearing I was having. This question floored me as I had assumed it would be a regular hearing where both sides ask each other questions. I had done most of my prep work for that type of  court format. How was I to know what type of format it was going to be? At that moment I saw "red". I was so pissed off at the legal system in general and everyone and everything that had any connection to it. I felt as though I had wasted so much precious time. It is not a friendly climate for self represented folks. Purposeful?
  No time to feel sorry for myself now. I switched gears after I vented to my wife B by phone. So much to do yet.

  I worked feverishly for hours. Krista eventually pointed me in the right direction re: the format of Argument.  I had no experience in debating nor arguing so I felt lost as to how to set up my position in a coherent order that made sense to the Judge. I persisted despite how I felt.
  On Monday, my brother Steve called and asked if he could help in any way. I immediately said yes. When he arrived he was ready to do what ever I needed him to.  He was expecting to assist with legal paper work and as a carpenter, he was not accustomed to this. I think he was relieved when I asked him to go to Staples and run some other errands for me the night before THE HEARING. Without their help I would have run out of time. Thanks guys!
   So at midnight, the night before my hearing, I laid down my pen, pads and documents.

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A Visit To See D...With The Case Always Looming Nearby

   On Nov 10th, 2011 I was in Winnipeg to spend some time with D for one week. It was so nice. He has been staying with my brother since August. I am so appreciative of their willingness to have him stay there as long as it takes.
  D has wonderful support from both of our families. I have mentioned it before. We are both very grateful of their generosity and support during his time in Winnipeg.
  I wanted the visit to be mostly enjoying each other and the visiting of immediate family.
  I saved the "not so good stuff" for the way home. One can't get away from that.
  I read Sharon's affidavit on the plane ride home and made several notes. I had read a large portion of her 2 volume exhibits attached to the affidavit on the last day I was in Winnipeg. WOW!!
  The predominant response is chuckling. We literally laughed at some of the content. Not in a facetious way but a truly light hearted way.
  The repetition of information filed by Sharon was incredible. How easy it is to lie and to file false information with the courts is astounding to me. D had to respond to all of this nonsense. He had to answer to it as he had the final response. He stated it was more wasted time and hours of effort to respond yet again to the same accusations.
  He had provided factual information and letters from our attourney, our CPA, and the IRS.
  The clock ticks...ticks...ticks...

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Feels Like A Three Ring Circus

 Well a few days ago D texted me that he had been served with papers from Sharon/attourney. She changed attourneys and I will post about that in a little bit. 
 The papers were for D to appear in front of a Master (or so he thought) on Nov 8th, 2011 to address a request that Sharon was making. She had numerous requests of D to remove several paragraphs in his prior affidavit/s and to pay costs of this latest legal process. This is explained in his posts above.
  I truly felt this to be a purposeful delay and a tactic to get him to pay some money as they knew he had none. Their goal would be to delay the Trial. Sharon/atty would either shake D up to produce some cash or truly delay the process because he could not pay.
  The madness of it all is that with delays, Sharon does not get any support money (to be determined at the Trial) and she continues to spend money on all of these legal proceedings.
  The only one making money is the attourney and the courts. Fees are required by the courts for all sorts of reasons.
  The children are lost in all of it. D wants to get some type of resolution and start paying his kids directly.
  So many times all I can do is shake my head in disbelief. I cannot make any sense of the system or process allowed.
  It literally feels like a three ring circus or a puppet show. It's about moving according to who is holding the marionnette strings or following the circus master.
  I cannot imagine how it truly feels for D right in the middle having to go here and there and respond to constant BS. To remain focused and strong through all of it is remarkable to say the least.
  I am so proud of him. What an honor it is to be going through life with such an incredible person as a partner. I love you baby!

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